It’s the Little Things…

While it may be tempting to believe that people only pay the most attention to the “big” things we say or do, in reality, it is the little things that shape our character and help others determine who we are. The kind of image we present to the world is often determined by our actions, comments, attitude, behavior and even appearance. These little things are often observed within the first few seconds of meeting someone, as well as when the unplanned event happens in our lives.

18 simple little things you can measure that can have a huge impact. 

1. Dress the part.  The appearance of our clothes, hair, shoes, etc., can make a difference in the way we are perceived . Consider those you will be meeting with on any given day, and make an effort to demonstrate that you value the time you have with them.

2. Be on time.  Being late gives others the opportunity to judge you without you even being there. If you say you’re going to be somewhere at a certain time, then be there at that time or communicate in a timely manner. (This is an area that I need improvement).

3. Keep your word. Down the road, if you don’t follow through, the comfort that person felt turns into discouragement, frustration and even anger. If you can’t keep a promise, don’t make it. If you do make a promise, do everything you can to keep it.

4. Respect others.  This includes all people regardless of the level of relationship that you have with them, as especially requires a concerted effort for those who have differing opinions or actions. If you look for attributes you respect in people, you will find them.

5. Say, “Please,” and, “Thank you”.  Small words. Lots of mileage. Expressing your gratitude to people for each act of kindness you receive, however big or small, shows that you see the good in people.

6. Smile often. Smiles are contagious and often will remind others that there are things to be grateful for and that life is good.

7. Be faithful to your partner. By being honest and true with your partner, you are showing that you know where your priorities are. You understand what it means to be in a healthy relationship. This holds true for relationships and business.

8. Speak clearly and make eye contact. Affirm the person you’re talking try letting them know you value the conversation and are engaged in the discussion.

9. Use humor. Used appropriately, humor can lighten the mood and bring people down from a tense state.

10. Greet people with a handshake or hug. Use the appropriate greeting to employ a warm and welcoming environment.

11. Be authentically You. Know what you want out of life and do everything you can to achieve it. Enthusiastically encourage that for others.

12. Listen to others.  Actively listen to what others are saying and resist the urge to craft your response while they are still talking.

13. Perform acts of kindness.  Open doors for others, get a neighbor’s mail while they are away, bring dinner to someone who is sick or just had a baby.

14. Be organized.  Schedule your day and know where you keep items at home, work, and in your car, etc. Life is less complicated when you aren’t constantly missing appointments or searching for needed items.

15. Compliment people.  Genuinely look for the good in others and make the time to let them know you noticed.

16. Be positive and focus on the good. Look for a solution instead of focusing on the problem.

17. Move past hurts.  Choose to let go of things people may say or do whether purposefully or accidentally. Confront in kindness when necessary. It is much more freeing than reacting in anger or becoming resentful.

18. Own up to your mistakes.  When you make a mistake, admit it, own up to it, do what you can to fix it and move on.

Sheri Geyer is a Christian Life Coach, Realtor, Writer, Wife & Mom

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New Season… New Role

It’s been several months since I’ve posted to my blog. I’ve missed it… alot!

My life has taken on a new role as Power of Attorney for my mom. This isn’t what I thought I’d be when I grew up. It doesn’t seem to fit. I’m not sure how to do this.

Recently my mom, who is a young 73, was diagnosed with dementia. This is accompanied by other challenges as well. She has a particular cycle that as the day wears on, she becomes more confused and agitated and often doesn’t sleep at night. She spends this time wandering from room to room on an unending search for something, usually from her past. A scarf. A set of keys. Even a child. It has been tough.

My brother, oldest daughter and I have shared the responsibility to care for Mama and keep her in a homelike setting for as long as possible. Based on an updated diagnosis, Mama is in a rehab center for several weeks and then will be transferred to a long term caring facility for dementia and memory care.

I’ve experienced a huge cycle of emotions during this time. Most of them are where I try to determine what decisions my mother would make for herself if she were able. Sometimes, it’s what I would want for myself if it were me.

This has affected every part of my life and has left me exhausted, tearful and confused at times. My confusion is more about how this could have happened and what are the best decisions to be made.

I am not angry. It is what it is. God allows things in our lives for more reasons that we will know at the onset. Over time we will know all about it.

One of the most amazing blessings has been the deepening of relationships. The connection between my daughters and me, my brother and me and the reconnection of a long time friend.

I met Wanda in 3rd grade and we were friends all the way through high school. Life and marriage took us miles and years apart… even though time never separated the memory of that friendship from my heart. A few years back we reconnected on Facebook and begin to re-develop our friendship.

During these last months since my mom basically woke up confused on Valentine’s Day, Wanda has opened her heart and home to me as I have made numerous trips back to the place of my birth and growing up years. It has been the most wonderful experience and blessing I could’ve hoped for. We’ve laughed and cried together as we have filled in the missing pieces of the 30 years that have passed since we were inseparable. It seems as though the years were easy to catch up on and we have a deepened friendship and a renewed sense of connection.

Our new season in life is much like the beginning season. We have always enjoyed amazing commonalities. We are both Realtors and even have the same iPhone 6 Plus and notification alerts on the phones.

The bridge between the years has joyously been rebuilt with new memories and refreshing moments regardless of whether we are texting from where we live 4 hours apart or sharing a glass of wine together in her living room.

In every season, regardless of the difficulties we face, God always has a time and place for refreshment and support.

I’m thankful that at 7 years old, I met the most beautiful lifelong friend! Wanda, here’s to 50 more years of growing up together! I love you girlie 🙂