Radical Obedience

I am a member of a church I love! It feels so much like family that I believe it provides a glimpse of what heaven will be like when we are all gathered in His Presence.

I delight in being a part of a fellowship that keeps me awakened to having a heart of mercy and compassion. My challenge comes when I consider how at times I have allowed myself to be lulled into thinking that what happens for God for good only happens inside the church building at a worship service.

Looking back at where I have been I am acutely aware that great things happen at church and this is where we are equipped and raised up to go into our little corners of the world and influence others to become whole-hearted followers of Jesus Christ.

Out of the brokenness in the journey of my life, I have a stronger sense of what I believe to be the call of Christ on us as His church. I like to think of it as radical obedience. I believe this is a a call to make a difference in our world by reaching out to connect and get to know our neighbors in ways that may seem radical in our culture. We are all busy doing life but not necessarily enjoying it. Perhaps, this could be the game-changer!

Some time back, I rode through a neighborhood of older homes which housed families of fixed or limited incomes. Many were gathered on front porches, children were playing in the yards and on sidewalks together and though the means appeared to be limited, the genuine care and nurturing of one another was anything but lacking. It made me smile to remember many such times gathered together with folks on my grandmother’s front porch.

This image in my mind has convinced me that this is the picture of the true church. It is connecting where we live, work and play and not just where we go and all sit in the same building on Sunday. This is how a true family is built where time is spent building genuine, loving relationships. This is where we gain vision, encouragement, and support. And much needed guidance.

In these relationships the love of Christ is evident as we seek to develop a fellowship first with God and then taking what we hear in our quiet places and sharing that message with the world.

Once we experience the simple beauty of the sacred fellowship that comes when two or more are gathered together and realize He is in our midst, it adds a richness to our lives that we will not want to live without.

It is a depth that goes beyond the tradition of the church to a relationship with an untamed God, who is radical in His great love for us! It is an invitation to live trembling with joy in the presence of a holy God with a radical obedience, having the experience of a radical grace that compels us to know and serve this amazing God all of the days of our lives.

I have reflected on these ideas as a result of having a season of R E S T as I prepared for and said goodbye to my mother, as she recently passed from this life into the arms of Jesus. God wastes nothing and I’ve needed each season that He has allowed in my life, even the ones that are difficult.

What is it that God may be calling YOU to be radical about? And what are you preparing as your answer to Him?

Radical things happen in our own lives when we say “Yes, God”!

Sheri Geyer is a Christian Life Coach, Writer, Realtor, Wife & Mom

A Simplified Life

I’m uncertain as to when or how it started. I think it may have always been present with me. The day my life forever changed….

I realized that all I really want is a small, slow, simple life! I am most content in the space of routine and ordinary. It’s here where I recognize the truly spectacular events may be a rainy afternoon and a good book, or a lingering lunch with a friend or loved one where we reminisce about the goodness of God in our lives or the moments that He has given that have taken our breath away. It’s where my calm lives.

I have chosen a lifestyle of moderation and I have peace with that. I like the ease in managing stress and learning to choose the paths and places that maintain this level of quiet in my life. It allows me to reserve my energy for the unplanned and unexpected moments where calm is a true asset for responding in a manner I will be happy with now and in the future.

The world can be a noisy place with loud voices pushing or driving for me to hustle, to improve, build, strive, yearn, acquire, compete, and grasp for more. Make a huge impact in everything I do. Make my life count.

All the striving for excellence can leave me drained of joy and wondering if I am simply not enough. And when I stop spinning and listen for God’s still, small voice, I hear Him whispering for me to ‘cease’ striving and know that He is God.

What if I never really achieve accolades beyond the people who are my primary circle of impact, consistently letting them know they are loved and I would choose them again? What if life as I have chosen it is good, even amazing, in light of the fact that my heart is fully engaged?

What if I simply write as God brings His reflections of beauty to my soul? And what if I have come to accept that the greatest joys and fulfillment come from offering the gifts I have to the community of women I care about encouraging them that bigger isn’t always better? What if I can simply remind those that I invest in that their gifts and influence are far more valuable than what is understood at the time?

What if I simply remain calm and centered and help others to see that they are enough? And, that God in us, provides great hope for others?

What if I just accept this ordinary body of mine that is neither big nor small? And I make peace with it and decide that when I lie on my deathbed I will never regret having just been me.

What if I am a home manager who rarely dusts or vacuums and mostly maintains order and makes real food but sometimes buys pizza and after giving thanks to God for all things, I simply enjoy and do not feel guilty?

What if I make plans and budgets and then occasionally break my own rules and push back against rigidity. Is it really a big deal if I’m not into fancy or expensive things? Or that I like a small and safe home?

Since leaving the frantic pace of life and learning to not keep up, I have found that I need tons of solitude and calm, an abundance of rest, and swaths of unscheduled time in order to be healthy.

Having given up my former dogmatic state of being, I have found great delight in sharing my deeply rooted faith, doubts and insecurities, in quiet ways and through genuine relationship. I have some very special women in my life who have guided me to this and each of you know who you are!

We haven’t had a fairy tale romance and I follow hard after God to be the wife that will always be for Jeff’s best. This keeps me humble and I need it!

I am a mom who delights in her girls and in knowing they are free to choose their appointments with life. I consider it a special privilege to affirm and support them in their passions?

I seek the Lord often to learn to embrace my limitations and stop railing against them. I am at peace with who I am and what I need and believe it to be an amazing gift of God to walk in this knowledge.

I want a small, slow, simple life. A mediocre life. A beautiful, quiet, gentle life.

And for me, it is enough!

Sheri Geyer is a Christian Life Coach / Mentor, Realtor, Writer, Wife & Mom.

How Does My Heart Grow? 

*This writing was inspired by my friend Brande ❤

Being easily offended or defensive when someone has a different opinion that does not support our views is a negative response that hinders emotional maturity. 

Allowing respectful diverse view points into our thinking helps us grow and gain insight from different perspectives. Limiting ourselves to ideas only from people who agree with us can inhibit or destroy significant relationships.

Assuming that we are being rejected if others do not perform as we desire or show support in our endeavors results in unhealthy thought processes. 

If we work to communicate with one another with kindness, patience, and understanding, we can cultivate ways to operate in love and empathy, opening opportunities for growth and strong relationships that impact us personally, spiritually and professionally. 

Might it be possible that God intended diversity to mature and teach us how to love in a way that transforms us as well as others? 

I believe it is worth pondering… 

Sheri Geyer is a Realtor & Christian Life Coach

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The Power of Listening

I have often found it hard to avoid the temptation of telling people how to do something they are attempting to do in a different way. Different from the way I do it, of course! It has to be easier or I wouldn’t be doing it this way, right? At least, that is what the logical sense side of my brain screams to me. It almost seems natural to tell others our way of doing, seeing, being, etc. 

What I have been slow to learn is that we all have ideas on how to do something and many times if we are just present with someone and observing their efforts, we bring a lot to the table. Many of us are overdue for a few “attaboy” pats on the back and are overwhelmed with the telling feature of others.

I’ve learned that asking people questions about what they are doing or how they decided to do a certain task or project is a great way to offer encouragement and acceptance. I am now convinced that people need encouragement much more than they need instruction.

Asking a question and then giving someone the latitude to share their thoughts on it offers acceptance of the differences we have from others. Listening without mentally focusing on how we are going to tell them to do it a better way can bond us together in deeper ways. Active listening offers people the respect and courtesy to share their hearts and ideas without feeling corrected or as if they are in need of “fixing”.

I’ve heard it said that if you give someone 15 minutes to speak, they will tell you everything that is important to them. How much more value could we bring to our relationships if we offered the gift of listening to people who are important to us, and then using what we learn to offer encouragement in their endeavors?

Think about it. People often point out the mistakes, flaws and errors they see in others or in situations. How often do you hear someone comment on how enjoyable something they experienced proved to be? It’s refreshing, but rare.

Take every opportunity to develop the strength of character that is found in truly listening. People will be drawn to you as you, in turn, encourage them and open your heart to share the things you value.

If we pass this idea on to others, we may just find that listening is the most favored of all of the love languages.

Oh, and thanks for listening to my ramblings!

Sheri Geyer is a Realtor and Christian Life Coach.

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Nuggets of Simple Wisdom

Today is a brand new day with new mercies. Your life is a blank piece of paper. How will you fill it?

Confrontation that seeks to clear the air and restore peace is in making the effort to listen to a person share their thoughts and feelings.

True relationship means identifying with someone in thought, heart and spirit. It is a rare but beautiful gem.

Whenever you are in doubt, don’t.

When I allow the Truth of God to settle the issues in my life, I am confident when otherwise I would be confused, peaceful not pressured.

Words are only part of communication; the real impact of a message comes from body language and the way in which the message is presented.

Fear often prevents us from trying. It’s easier to navigate if we are at least moving.

Finding value in life’s difficulties often results from asking the right questions… “What can I learn from this situation?”

The first and most difficult risk we take is to be honest with ourselves. This is crucial in an effort to make sustainable change.

When you don’t know what to do, do the next basic right thing. Sometimes that’s the very thing that motivates!

The best thing we can spend on those we love is T I M E!

Obstacles are the things you see when you take your eyes OFF the goal.

A good reputation is of more value than great riches.

Guarding our words spares us from unnecessary trouble.

A calm answer diffuses anger; a harsh reply stirs up anger.

The ability to develop assertiveness comes from having established firm and clear boundaries (personal limits).

In order to motivate people and release their potential, one thing is required … you will need to believe in them.

The baseline for building authentic relationships is T R U S T.

Stay true to what you know and believe to be right and your efforts will not be in vain.

Neither affluence nor education can surpass simple tenacity in the pursuit of success. Diligence levels the playing field.

The one who finds wisdom enjoys life and the favor of God.

Do not withhold good from the one it is due.

The first lies we need to learn to avoid, are the ones spoken by our fears.

Anxiety in the heart causes depression; an encouraging word can bring peace.

Take care of what’s important to God and He will take care of what’s important to you!

A wise man changes his mind, a fool never does.

LLiving in moderation is much easier than the problems accompanying overindulgence.

To be trusted is the greatest complement. It reveals the true character of the one trusted.

When the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of making a change we are willing to take the steps necessary to move forward.

Those whom God allows to suffer greatly, He will often use greatly.

Concentrate on the condition that you want and not the one you are trying to dispose of.

Treat others they way you would like for them to be and that is what they will become.

It is never wrong or out of style to express kindness toward others.

The strongest force on earth … L O V E. It softens even the heart of steel.

We never miss the water until the well runs dry. Whatever we take for granted has the risk of running dry.

Relinquish what isn’t working for you … and you’ll have more time and energy to enjoy what is.

Consider when you have been wronged that if they are able to live “with it” you are able to live “without it”.

The high road is empowering. Eliminate self-limiting talk.

Whatever you look for in any given circumstance, you will find. Look for the bad, that’s what you will find; look for the good, that’s what you will find.

Happiness ~ Peace ~ Contentment is more about wanting what you have as opposed to having what you want.

Wisdom is the principle thing, not silver or gold.

Love is the commitment to the welfare of another.

Let go of all that’s not working for you and you will become all you are meant to be.

Perhaps our time here is not so much to accomplish tasks but more to enjoy the presence of God in childlike wonder.

Maturity is the ability to consider the impact of our words and / or actions before we say or do them.

Attempting to solve problems with the same mindset that created them is a waste of time.

Luck is for the ill prepared. Those who prepare find opportunity.

If people talk to you about others; they talk to others about you. Use wisdom in choosing the people you confide in.

You create tomorrow’s successes by what you dream today! Aim high.

Pain that is acknowledged and embraced results in time for grieving loss and contains the seed for the place of healing that brings new life.

Every moment, every breath is a gift from God.

Love the people who treat you well.  Pray for the ones who don’t.

Time is a precious commodity and offers the highest value.  Trade it for what is most valuable – use things, love people.

Engage people by asking questions that are about them.  Building authentic relationships is the key to establishing loyalty in life and work.

Chasing after counterfeits will cost dearly.  There’s nothing like the real thing.

The biggest cause of failure and unhappiness is trading what you want most for what you want now.

Winners never quit and are willing to look for and do things others won’t.

Determine your life purpose based on the things you value.

When we take responsibility for our lives, we are empowered to make necessary and sustainable change!

Doing more and trying harder will not turn a destructive relationship around.  Healthy boundaries provide the best opportunity to attract the right relationships.

Don’t jump out of the frying pan into the fire.  Don’t be impulsive; you may find that your situation will actually worsen.

In the kitchen, clean as you go.

If you need undivided devotion; get a dog.

Have annual traditional celebrations, regardless of your circumstances.  Connect the present to the pass.  It’s the making of memories you will cherish always.

Whatever you do, do it without grumbling.  Grumbling makes every task more burdensome.

The dinner table is how we reconnect at the end of the day and invest in the ones who matter most.

If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything.

Take long walks and lots of pictures.

Record the voices of your children and your parents.

Bubble baths are for tired muscles and long days.

Mugs of hot cocoa and good books are great for cold and rainy days.

Don’t feed your mind or body with bad things.

Learn to enjoy your own company.  Solitude can be empowering.

Sing while in the shower and in the car with children.  It helps you to engage, and it helps them to remember.

Good music and sweet fragrances engage the mind and will trigger good responses when you experience them again.

Fear is an awesome motivator but a cruel taskmaster.

When you do all you can do, God will show up and do what only He can do.

Read a portion of Scripture everyday. Apply its principles.

Doing your best trumps not trying when you can’t be the best.

It is always darkest just before the dawn.  This is true in light of our circumstances as well.

Be thankful in every situation; the good ones for obvious reasons; the difficult ones for the lessons.

There is more opportunity for maturity during adversity than at any other time.

Whatever your current situation, it came to pass, not to stay.

Simplify your life. Get organized.  Pick one area at a time.

Treat others the way you would like to be treated.

Don’t go to bed angry.

Finish what you start.

If someone will lie to you; they will steal from you.

Focus on the moment and be intentional in it.

Live by your values.  Work from your passion and strengths.

Relinquish your past mistakes, and accept yourself with laughter.

Say what you mean, and truly mean what you say.

Let challenges bring growth and not create excuses.

Let go of resistance and find a surprising peace.

Be a student of the Truth and of people.

Mentor and be mentored.

Ask engaging questions to build authentic relationships.

Be alert to the moments that take your breath away.

Be diligent in loving those who mean the most, so they will know the promise of commitment.

Invest, include and invite others to gain the best God has for them.

Manage stress well in order to have the emotional energy to deal with the issues in life.

Read something uplifting and encouraging daily.

Live, eat, drink, work, sleep, travel, in moderation. Avoid excess in all things.

Resolve conflict before it becomes resentment.

Be thankful in all things and to all who demonstrate kindness.

Accept the things you are unable to change; be proactive to change the things you can.

Catch a sunset every chance you get.

Enjoy your work everyday. If you don’t, find the work that will enable you to.

Meet the neighbors.

Live debt free.

Leave a legacy to your children that will carry them all of their lives.

Enjoy fireside chats often.

Develop an openness to try and learn new things.

Memorize as many of God’s promises as possible.

Remind yourself to slow down, sip the coffee, smell the roses, and smile for no reason.

Cease from strife and worry. All things work out in God’s time.

Trust God’s heart when you can’t see his hand.

Make amends and work out your conflicts.

Love with sincerity.

Avoid destructive habits and people.

Keep your commitments.

Be a person of your word.

Don’t return evil for evil; overcome it with good.

Do as much good as you can, as often as you can.

Be spiritual in your heart; not religious for show.

Pray to God with real words in a real way.

Substitute acceptance for judgment.

Guard your heart and allow only good things to come from it.

Live what Jesus taught in the Sermon on the Mount. (Matt 5-7)

Remember, regardless of what happens you will make it through.

Cut excess baggage and travel light.

Stay connected to those who encourage you and to ones you can encourage.

Provide a home environment that is peaceful and a blessing to all who visit.

Serve those who have nothing to give in return with a hug, a kind word, a sandwich, and hope.

Find a little humor in every situation.

Minimize the things in life that pull you away from what is really important.

Be present at the important events in the lives of those you love.

Realize that the less often you make life “all about you” the more you can enjoy it.

Be fun and pleasant to be with.

Be open to things that will stretch you in positive ways.

Live transparently and authentically and give others permission to do the same.

Be involved in organizations that increase the quality of the lives they touch.

Seek to understand rather than attempt to fix others.

Have a working knowledge of Biblical truth to give an answer to those who are hurting or to those who are simply curious.

Overcome the tendency to judge and replace it with a heart to encourage.

Develop the skills necessary to have empowering and enlightening conversations.

Stand at the finish line often as those who have struggled overcome pain, sorrow, and fear.

Live in such a way that the bad things you do are forgiven, and the good things you do bring glory to God and encourage others to seek a better path.

Failure, if not accompanied by quitting, can lead to the greatest success.

Sheri Geyer is a Christian Life Coach, Realtor, Writer, Wife & Mom